You know how some people dread Mondays? 

Well, that’s how I feel about Friday.

I know. Weird, right? 

But Friday is the day when I realize that my ever looming to-do list did not get done. And those things that didn’t happen, well, they won’t get another chance to happen until Monday. 

I love Mondays.

Monday happens to be my favorite day of the week, because I am most productive at crossing things off my list. And, I really like a crossed-off list. But as the week goes on, and other things pop up in my schedule, the productivity wanes. And by Thursday, I get a bit down on myself for all the things that I still didn’t do.

And really, It’s not that I don’t like weekends, or spending time with my family, it’s just that there is always, always, always something more to be done. 

But on this particular Friday, I took a different approach. Instead of thinking about all the things I didn’t get around to doing, I made a list of all the things I accomplished this week. What I realized is many items on this list were not tasks to be completed, but instead, revolved around building relationships. And it’s relationships that I want to be remembered for.

Here’s my new list.

• Wrote a vulnerable post for Kingdom Edge Magazine
• Led a critique group of writers
• Cleaned my upstairs, including the floors, and my desk!
• Had coffee with Maranda and lunch with Shelly
• Attended Ash Wednesday Service with my oldest son
• Enjoyed yoga (just once) and went to the Chiropractor
• Spent time in God’s Word
• Led a small group in my home
• Spent one on one time with my youngest when he was home from school
• Visited with a new mom and her sweet baby
• Took my dog to training and went on a walk
• Read and listened to books
• Mailed a package to a friend
• Had a long conversation on the phone with my mom and my sister
• Created graphics for Yoga Baby, calendar for KE, and Feedback form for Workshop

Only a few of these items were actually on the original list of ‘things to do’ this week. Most of them popped up, unscheduled and unplanned. These are not the things that are going to make money, or advance my career, or be considered ‘successful’ to the world. But these are the most important things and I am grateful for a schedule that allows me the flexibility to love on others and build relationships. 

As a stay at home (or work at home) momma, it’s easy to get wrapped up in the idea that we should be doing more. But maybe, instead of feeling ‘less than’ we need to shift our perspective and make a different list. 

So, cheers to Friday! You’ve done what you can do:)